Ha! Where can I start? How about admitting that I’m guilty of judging others. Admitting is always the first step.
I used to judge people if I knew that they had been arrested or had served time in prison then a few people that I loved, grew up with, looked up to, and admired served time in prison for various things DUI, drugs, lying to insurance companies, etc. I was very sheltered growing up and grew up in a very conservative household and until the past 10 years, I sincerely knew what it was like to be on the other side of the fence. Yes, they had made poor decision, they had to pay for it and I’m in no way or form saying that they should not be held accountable for their actions. These individuals were mostly just as sheltered as I was and then life happened. I’ve done things, that I should have been held accountable for, especially in my youth. Things like DUIs, being at the wrong place at the wrong time, an argument becoming heated and turning into violence, etc. CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE OF US AT ANYTIME. I’m also not saying that I would intentionally go befriend a malicious murderer (please note that I did not say self-defense but malicious), rapist, or child molester because I don’t personally view those particular crimes as poor decisions but deep sickness where they do BELONG in prison. There is a HUGE difference and I’m fully aware of it, because I am a victim of sexual assault. I have over time forgiven my attacker but he belongs permanently in prison and his crime history shows that to be true.
Here’s where we can use judgment in a positive way, and I actually learned this a few years ago when I was getting my gun carry permit: avoid putting yourself in a situation that can cause permanent damage. As simple as that is, more people need to be told that. As we get older instead of judging others, we should learn from mistakes and use BETTER judgment and not put ourselves in bad situations. I avoid certain places and people where nothing but trouble can circulate. No judgment on these people or places but they don’t serve me to be a better person and their repetitive history states that.
Moral of the story, the next time you hear through the grapevine or even media about someone going to jail or getting arrested, try to wish them humility and growth instead of judgment. It’s easy to judge, trust me I judge unknowingly all the time but try to catch yourself and recognize that the person needs as much positive vibes as possible because if they are facing jail time, they will not come out the same and society is already harsh enough on the individuals when they return to the real world.